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I am still travelling overseas, but have received a recent request for help from Katt who says:
“I need help. I am so very overwhelmed. I can’t stay focused. I need to find inner peace before I totally lose myself. Please help me.”
I can imagine how lost and desperate you feel as this was a place in which I so often found myself while on my path to awareness and peace. It took me some time to realize this was my ego’s voice, trying to persuade me that I was alone and fear my was my only companion. Please know this is not true—you are not alone and God/Love is only a thought away.
What helped me when my own feelings of desperation overwhelmed me was to surrender to the feeling. I wonder if you have tried this? I have found when you let go and accept physical or emotional pain, the pain lessens. Often pain of any kind is your soul asking you for a connection, reminding you that there is more to you than a physical body.
Our soul’s message is always the same—you are strong, you are loved and you will receive all the guidance you need to believe this.
Love and peace,
On the subject of negative and positive thinking, I recently heard from Sharon:
I was really hoping that you could recommend some books about negative and positive thinking. I am just about to embark on my journey to achieving inner peace and hopefully some form of tranquility. My family and I have been through a really stressful time over the last 4 years. I have a daughter who is suffering from mental illness BPD and depression, has attempted suicide on a couple of occasions, she is now tackling an alcohol addiction. As you can imagine this has had a huge impact on my entire family and all of our stress levels have rocketed. Things have begun to calm down and I am finding it very difficult to relax and find some inner peace and calm because I am constantly worrying about what will happen next. I feel that if I can change the way I think and look within myself to find the positive energy to move forward it will help me and my family. Your help would be most gratefully received.”
How wonderful that you are embarking on a spiritual journey Sharon! It seems to be true that so often the difficulties we are experiencing ourselves or with those close to us, help move us in the right direction…
You are right to believe that looking within will help you—to change the way you think and to connect with your soul-self and find peace. One of the books that I and a great many people have found helpful regarding the way we think is Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now. It has been around for a long time, but his insight and truth about how the way we think affects our lives, never gets old.
If you haven’t already visited the Specific Topics page on this website and found them, you will discover I have written several blogs about positive and negative thinking, including My Thoughts Are Making Me Crazy. And, I am working on another piece on this topic, which I will put up soon.
Try to let go of the need to worry about the future and know that you are loved. Know too that you have the loving support of all of us who have chosen a spiritual path and that we are sending you our positive, powerful energy to guide and help you and your family through this difficult time.
Love and peace,
I just heard from N.B. about forgiveness and courage:
I am struggling with accepting that I should live with my mother(88), who falls a lot, and older brother (64) who is an uncouth alcoholic. I am searching for courage to live in this situation. There is much hurt from childhood that I thought I had forgiven but apparently I have not. I have been sober 25 years. What can I do to truly, fully, forgive my mother and brother for past pain and accept this uncomfortable situation?”
As I often write, life is full of hard choices and difficult situations, and like you, I have had my fair share of both. I thought I had forgiven my mother also but I had not, so I can truly relate to your situation. What moved me towards real forgiveness was the amount of pain I was carrying around inside me and which affected every relationship and part of my life. I wanted so badly to be free of it. Early on, my spiritual path led me to guided meditation, which was the key to forgiveness for me. Here is the link for a description of this process, which can be found on the Specific Topics page, under Guided Meditation.
Another key aspect of forgiving those who I believed had hurt me was to alter my perception of the hurt. For all of us, understanding that other people’s thoughts, words and behaviors are theirs and have nothing to do with us, allows us to get to the truth about ourselves. Once I stopped believing my mother knew me better than I know myself, I was able to change my thoughts about her and therefore the pain I felt about her words and actions. I realized that her behavior reflected who she was, not who I was/am.
You are loved. Do you believe that? When you accept this truth, you will be able to let go of the idea that you need your mother, or anyone, to love you and forgiveness follows.
As to the uncomfortable situation in which you find yourself regarding living with your mother and brother, I believe that letting go of the desire to be judgmental and offering true forgiveness will make it easier for you. You have already demonstrated your courage in choosing a path of spiritual awareness and sobriety. Know that you are not alone—you are never alone, or without the loving compassion and support from all of us on this spiritual journey.
Practically speaking, there may also be other people (family members or friends) who can assist you with the actual care-giving side of your situation. It is important to take time for you. Being kind to and loving yourself is very important. In my case I discovered I had hidden talents—I love being able to create things—jewelry, flower arrangements, water-color paintings. Doing what we love brings peace and joy to our lives as it is an expression of our soul.
Sending you healing energy, love and peace,
S.L. wrote this recently:
I have to thank you soo much for your site. I can relate to most of your posts and it is helping me understand, appreciate and find myself. Thank you."
I am glad you are finding my posts helpful S.L., and I encourage you and all my regular visitors to share the link for this site with anyone else you think may benefit. Thanks so much.
Love and peace,
I just received a question from Chrissy:
"I am interested in your posts about negative and positive energy, and I came across your site after googling the idea. Are there any specific books written about positive/ negative, ego and soul energy that you know of?"
That's a good question Chrissy and in reviewing the Specific Topics page I discovered there was a problem with accessing Exploring Energy so hopefully that is fixed now. I mention The Divine Matrix by Greg Braden in that post, and although the book is not an easy read, I found it helpful.
I also think that almost all spiritual awareness books incorporate information about energy, because our souls are energy...
Love and peace,
I am happy to share the following from N.P.
"The light of your being and the consciousness of knowing your real self and all at the proper time, when needed, benefits followers of your post. You are sharing a completeness that has arrived naturally and pouring yourself out allows the universe to do the same.
Thank you for your beautiful writings...and continued success in 2013."
Thank you so much for your kind comments. It is heartwarming to know how you and others feel as we travel a spiritual path together. We are not alone and all that we do affects others. It is the greatest gift for me to be able to share my thoughts and experiences through my words, and know the love with which they are written, is being received.
Love and peace,
The New Year brought me this note (abbreviated) from Tom:
"You have touched me by the simple and unassuming manner with you present spiritual growth. I believe God has placed you in my path to guide and help me with matters spiritual.
I have read books and articles on spiritual growth. I regret that while some have been inspiring others are driven by the one agenda to develop programs or products and sell them to many who suffer spiritual want. Some have done me more harm than good by injecting new confusion in my thinking patterns… You are lucky to find friends with whom you are in the journey together. This is important because at times it feels crazy that while others seem to enjoy a normal rational life, I struggle with questions and suffer under the pain of confusion, anxiety, fear and depression. Sometimes these sensations take over my mind and I can’ function normally and enjoy peace as I want it. But I have made a lot of strides in my journey… I'm a firm believer in God and I love that you mention that you rely on God or Love to guide you. This fascinates me… God bless you and your wonderful family..."
It has been my experience too that all I need is given to me. We are led to those who can help us learn and grow and it is my pleasure to “pay it forward” by sharing my thoughts, experiences and knowledge with you and others on a spiritual path, through this website.
And yes, as I discuss in Discovering The Truth, many people have decided that spirituality is a “big business”, but that is not my purpose here. As I often write, I believe that life is a gift and we are meant to discover who we are—spiritual beings having a human experience—and live from that perspective. It isn’t easy; it can be a struggle and we will feel crazy sometimes. But when your intention to live differently is strong, I believe God/Love and the entire universe brings to you all you need to accomplish your heart’s desire.
Love and peace,Marilyn
As 2012 draws to a close, I heard from Michael:
"I stumbled across your writings when I had typed in the words inner peace.... I can only hope and pray to find serenity someday. ‘Im still waiting for the circus to slow down in my mind....
Its good to know, that what I did not understand I was missing in my life growing up, still is waiting for me to grab.... but trying to get there has been a tremendous and emotional journey. With no end in sight
Thank you so much for sharing your feelings with me Michael.
I know it seems you are powerless over your thoughts, but this is not true. Even though the fear-based messages continue invading my mind, I acknowledge their source and constantly refuse to accept them (I just say to myself -- I know I don't really believe/think that). Then I acknowledge what I do believe is true about myself, the idea, thing or person I was thinking about. You will notice that when you start doing this over and over again, the emotional roller coaster ride slows because you are changing your beliefs and coming from your heart, not ego.
What I have learned from my own difficult and painful road to peace, is that the answer lies in me. What I believe is true, is true.
Yes, the journey never ends, but it becomes easier when you believe you are loved; when you are thankful for all that you encounter because it is showing you who you are. In acceptance you will, like me, find peace.
Love and peace,
"I just wanted to write and say thank you so much for your inspirational writing. I came across your website from a post you put up on the secret website and now I regularly check in to see your latest thoughts. I am on the spiritual path but lose my way every now and again! Your posts always help me to focus and I learn something from them each time.
Thanks so much. Kindest regards, MH"
I am so glad you find my website helpful. I just love writing about my spiritual journey and what I am learning along the way. In sharing with others I feel I am "paying it forward" because I have read so much written by many authors, that has inspired me over the years.
Love and peace,
Here is some feedback from P.N., who shares a beautiful story about creating our own reality.
"I have to tell you how wonderful your weekly pieces are. They reinforce everything I've read and help me stay on the right path.
One important event in my life came at just the right time and has helped me all my life and I wanted to share it with you. I was 14 years old, a year after my 17-year old sister had died, and I was very lost. Art and books were my escape. My favorite class in school was Art with Miss Lorraine Schack. One time I completed an in-class assignment and I walked it up to her desk to ask her what she thought of it. She paused, looked at it, and surprisingly said to me, "You know, it really doesn't matter what I think of it, what do YOU think of it?" She just looked to me for the answer. Secretly, I liked what I had done and I wanted her to tell me that she liked it so that the fact that it was good would become a reality. Miss Schack taught me that day that my own thoughts make my own reality. I will be forever grateful to her for that.
Thanks for listening and keep writing...it's wonderful!"
I received the following email from S.L.
"Sincere greetings to you, Marilyn. I came across your website just about a week back. This is not a coincidence but I believe it is the magic of The Universe. I am now in the most low-spirited and down time of my life as I am facing quite many challenges in my life. Like you said, we meet people so as to change ourselves to be better people. Generally, I am a very positive thinker and I know good things always come to me. However, of late, I am facing a big challenge in my life that I find it hard to think positive. I still try my best to chase any negative thoughts. I am a strong believer of The Universe and I have a lot of FAITH in GOD. I believe GOD will not let me down. I am at this point of time, living my days with this formula. I want to thank you for introducing your website, where I believe I will be able to find some answers.
I know that all will be good for me and everyone who believes."
Like you are doing now, I have faced many challenges in my life and know just how hard it is to stay positive. Now, I understand that the difficulties in which we find ourselves are for a purpose. The purpose is always the same – to encourage us to know who we are and that we are loved. I believe there is no greater knowledge than this. Believing we are loved unconditionally gives us the courage to move forward, gives us the strength to deal with whatever comes our way, and gives us the peace in our hearts to accept the challenges.
No-one’s life is problem free. None of us are positive all the time. As you say, having faith and knowing that all will be good for you is the best possible way to think; the answer to all the doubts that surface when life gets hard. Please know too, that love and positive energy flow to help you with your challenge, from all those who read this – allow yourself to be uplifted by this knowledge.
Be kind to yourself, acknowledge your fears, know that you are not alone and accept that you are loved.
Love and peace,
I received the following questions from K.C.:
“I'm curious what your experience and practice with visualization in manifestation has been. When you write about meditation, you focus on keeping a calm, clear mind, but I've also heard that meditation is a great time to visualize and really FEEL your desires. What is your opinion and preference with the practice?
Also, do you find journaling or writing/reciting affirmations a particularly helpful tool? I’ve had mixed results myself, and I'm curious as to what you have found.”
And I am happy to give the answers below:
I have found that my meditation sessions seem to take on a life of their own! Some mornings I have very few thoughts and just receive wonderful colors (mainly purple), feel that I am powerful energy, and have a deep sense of peace. These are the times I often “send out” energy to people I know (and do not know) who are sick or just those I feel would benefit from a positive energy “shot”!
Then there are times when I visualize or focus on bringing what I want to me. But before I do any visualization, I acknowledge all that I have; give thanks for everything that is good and wonderful in my life. Then I let my mind wander, see myself with what I want to have/attract into my life, imagine the situations and circumstances in which I would like to be.
I do not limit my “use” of The Law of Attraction to meditation sessions. My thoughts are often on what I want or need, throughout the day. I have had amazing results with big and small things. It does not seem to matter whether or not the need could be described as trivial. I recently decided I wanted to make a flower arrangement in a teapot. Now I collect teapots, but I did not want to use one that I had because it would mean discarding the lid. I wanted to find one without a lid. A few days after visualizing the arrangement, I was away for the weekend. I went into a store and found one perfect teapot, without a lid, in the clearance section. Not only that, around the corner was a silk flower shop and I went in there and found all of the flowers I need to be make the arrangement!
As to the second question – I have found journaling and writing/reciting affirmations to be helpful in the past. I view the brain as a computer and there are times when it seems a virus has got in there and has altered positive ways of thinking and behaving and appears to be destroying our ability to find peace. Affirmations can really help with reprogramming!
Thanks so much for your great questions and thank you message.
Love and peace,